forgiveness is inevitable

the following is in response to those two movies i saw recently - the women and sex and the city.

i believe that if you live long enough forgiveness is inevitable.

barring a few crimes i do not want to think, imagine or talk about - rape, murder, extreme physical torture - all others you eventually have to forgive and let go.

if a friend does something to completely shake your trust, what can you do? you can live in your indignation and walk around wounded, high headed, full of misgivings. but what more? if she is sorry for it, what else can she do now? she can kill herself and she still cannot take it back, it has been done cannot be undone. after a reasonable period of time, you have no other choice, you have to forgive her and completely let it go.

when i think about it, it applies to almost everything one person can do to another - someone ruins your favorite dress, is extremely rude to you, breaks a promise, or worse - as long as they are not sorry, fine, you go around yelling, screaming and playing the victim, but once they apologize - you are done. the way i see it, you only have two choices now. a) you forgive them and cut them off from your life, b) you forgive them and give them another chance. either ways if you do not forgive them , you will end up doing something far worse, you will end up turning yourself in to a bitter person. enh. won't be worth it in the end. and you will have only yourself to blame.

i don't know what that is. ironic, unfortunate, or just plain ridiculous.it is almost as if there is no such thing as free will, is there?

at the end of the day, when the dust settles, and all has been said and done - forgiveness is inevitable.