Having kids has taught me that... that, you cannot wait for it to be just perfect, you have got to take what you have right now.
Like this morning... it was a beautiful morning, everyone else was in bed, I came down, walked around while my tea got ready, a bit chilly in the house so got me a little throw from behind the couch and i felt good, good about my home - no it is not as done up as I would like it to be, I have just never taken the time or effort to decorate it really, but it is nice; comfortable, livable, and i felt good - about this life that i have created for myself. I was about to sit down on the couch to have my tea in peace - every one else in bed remember -a rare rare rare occurrence in our home these days.
And i wanted more... I thought maybe I could carry the teacup and the little box of laddus (yumm) up to the guest bedroom and enjoy the tea and laddus with some warm sunlight coming through that nice window with the great view of the parks. It is the best view in the house and my husband and I lament often that that should have been the master bedroom view :(( but....
Well, that would have been perfect and I was about to do it, but then i stopped short.
As I said above having kids has taught me to not push things trying to make them too perfect.
I know from experience that it is highly likely that just as i finally settle down in a cozy corner of the rajai someone will call me asking for chai, dudu, or change a diaper, and what is worse I will find out that I have only myself to blame, beacuse i woke up the said someone in my attempt to procure a book/ laptop/ headphones hopelessly trying to 'perfect'ify my solitude and thus having ruined it.
So I have now come to the conclusion to not try to do that. To take what i get and ... yes... shut up really and not ask for more. Just enjoy your chai while it is still hot and not let it go cold trying to find the right 'बिस्कुट'. There, my brand of zen wisdom.
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
a new hobby
I just had another epiphany!
You know how women collect shoes? I collect hobbies :) okay fine, i collect shoes and hobbies :)))
My latest is making cards. I know every three year old does that but... well, i am having fun, and i guess i am glad to be married to someone who does not get mad at my million new ventures. I am especially grateful for the things that he does not say.
Like he has never reminded me of the box full of junk - paint stuff - that we have lugged around from house to house, from back when i was painting, because ofcourse I could not just paint acrylics I had to do oil and watercolor too. He did not ask my when in hell would i need to make my own laces when i took those bobbin lace making classes, and he especially did not utter a word the winter I would trudge through a mountain of snow to go to a bow making class. He never once asked me how much that bow was costing him or told me that people buy bows at the dollar store. He even patiently smiled, when i told him that the particularly large bow I had just spent an hour to tie was way too expensive to be put on a gift (you know how expensive wired ribbon is, besides nobody even looks at the bows anymore, which comes back to the original question of why bother making bows, which he did not ask me) and actually let me put three of my favourite specimens on a wall!! big sigh, yes, even I am wondering how I can ever fight with such a patient man, but... well he has flaws, flaws that may not be visible to the naked eye, but flaws that exist all the same. And, I do pay attention to the details :)
but, I digress... so yes, these are all expensive hobbies, I am sure there was a time when it was the frugal smart thing to do to make your own greeting cards or lace or bows, but once china flooded the market with cheap, cheap and I mean cheap stuff none of these make sense anymore. They are just fancies, stuff to do when you have nothing better to do.
This time around I am going to do something else that only the most "vellas" of all people do - keep a record of my progress in card making by chronically posting it on my blog - yes - stuff that you do when you have nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing better to do :)
You know how women collect shoes? I collect hobbies :) okay fine, i collect shoes and hobbies :)))
My latest is making cards. I know every three year old does that but... well, i am having fun, and i guess i am glad to be married to someone who does not get mad at my million new ventures. I am especially grateful for the things that he does not say.
Like he has never reminded me of the box full of junk - paint stuff - that we have lugged around from house to house, from back when i was painting, because ofcourse I could not just paint acrylics I had to do oil and watercolor too. He did not ask my when in hell would i need to make my own laces when i took those bobbin lace making classes, and he especially did not utter a word the winter I would trudge through a mountain of snow to go to a bow making class. He never once asked me how much that bow was costing him or told me that people buy bows at the dollar store. He even patiently smiled, when i told him that the particularly large bow I had just spent an hour to tie was way too expensive to be put on a gift (you know how expensive wired ribbon is, besides nobody even looks at the bows anymore, which comes back to the original question of why bother making bows, which he did not ask me) and actually let me put three of my favourite specimens on a wall!! big sigh, yes, even I am wondering how I can ever fight with such a patient man, but... well he has flaws, flaws that may not be visible to the naked eye, but flaws that exist all the same. And, I do pay attention to the details :)
but, I digress... so yes, these are all expensive hobbies, I am sure there was a time when it was the frugal smart thing to do to make your own greeting cards or lace or bows, but once china flooded the market with cheap, cheap and I mean cheap stuff none of these make sense anymore. They are just fancies, stuff to do when you have nothing better to do.
This time around I am going to do something else that only the most "vellas" of all people do - keep a record of my progress in card making by chronically posting it on my blog - yes - stuff that you do when you have nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing better to do :)
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